Conscious and effective parenting
Whether your child is a spirited toddler or an adolescent attempting self-direction, you’ll find a guidance approach to be a compassionate, fair, and effective way of teaching children to be considerate and to become all that they can be. The approach was built on the writings of Dr. Thomas Gordon, psychologist and Nobel Prize nominee; Dr. Louise Porter, an educational child psychologist and author, and Dr. Marshall Rosenberg a specialist in conflict resolution.
Using these methods will have immediate results: less fighting, fewer tantrums and lies, no need for punishment; creating a nurturing family environment in which everyone will thrive.
This discipline accepts that children are capable, with support, of managing their own actions. It recognizes that babies are born communicating every emotion so that they receive what they need to survive.
Naturally, older children will occasionally experience lapses of self-control by indulging their emotions in the form of tantrums or aggression. Although we must solve the problem when their behaviours inconvenience others, we cannot blame children for lacking skills when they can’t meet their needs or regulate their emotions well. When we punish children for losing control of their emotions, we punish them for being children.
We teach step-by-step skills by giving parents practice at listening to children when they are upset; expressing our own needs when we’re upset; solving problems with children rather than imposing our will on them. It will give us strategies for solving chronic behavioural difficulties in children and adolescents.
Language is a very powerful medium and we affect others and ourselves with the language we use and even language we think. The most important conversation any of us have is the one that goes on inside our own head. In our course we heighten people’s awareness of what they are thinking about others (and themselves) and we educate them to shift their thinking away from a static judgmental language to a process language of feelings and needs.
BreakThrough is an investigation into our buttons. What are these buttons anyway? Where did they come from? Why are they there? How do I get rid of them!?! ?!? Sometimes this phenomenon of our buttons getting pushed can evoke such a powerful explosion that it can cost us relationships, jobs. Even lives have been lost and people have been injured because of a button getting pushed(!).
I think (that) we can all wrap our heads around the fact that the button was there prior to the proverbial button pusher’s arrival. Nonetheless, it is practically guaranteed they will be blamed for our behaviour with sentences like “you make me feel”, “look what you made me do”, “it’s all your fault”. Think about an incident when you were triggered (someone pushed your button(s) and your behaviour then went nuts (you had a complete overreaction) and some of us over-react and the world knows and other’s of us have mastered not showing it and implode — so what is happening within us may not be clear on the surface — but we are definitely having a huge over-reaction. Breakthrough is only about these moments. The moments when an external stimulus triggers us and we lose it. That button that got pushed is present in you until you ‘bring in the bomb squad’ and it’s decommissioned!
BreakThrough is the process to decommission the buttons. I don’t know of any other course that is available in the world that will offer you a chance to so quickly decommission the buttons.